Episode 9

The One About Shame And Guilt

Published on: 19th March, 2020

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!

When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.

In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.

Listen on for:

  • What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)
  • How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowers
  • Self-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!
  • What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) values
  • How to shift our feelings of shame and guilt
  • Society’s role in our feelings of shame and guilt
  • The distinction between guilt, procrastination and self-sabotage



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Adulting with Ebonie
Your weekly dose of introspection and contemplation on what it means and takes to be a conscious, creative adult with a misfit mind.
Adulting with Ebonie is the weekly podcast that brings together Neurodiversity, Human Design and Embodiment so that Gen X or Millennial Misfits (and late-diagnosed Neurospices) become empowered, embodied and fully expressed. Where I actively encourage you to feel your feelings rather than think them, glow up not grow up and become full of yourself, because who the f*ck else should you be full of? Each week I have real and raw conversations about what it takes to be fully resourced and have happy healthy intimate relationships as a dopamine-deficient adult wanting to create a better future by being the change you want to see in the world.
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Ebonie Allard

Ebonie (Alchemy) Allard is a Modern Mystic, a Misfit turned Maven, an Award winning International Master Coach, Certified in Human Design and mBit (Multiple Brain Integration Technique) an Author, Artist and Speaker.

Professionally: She’s the creator of The Misfit to Maven Way, The Value Filter™ system and ‘The AWE (Adulting with Ebonie) Podcast.’

Using a wide range of both ancient and modern medicine she facilitates Self Actualisation in self-selected weirdos and neurodivergent beings.

Her work is specifically focused on empowerment, embodiment & full self-expression.

She shares her wisdom in online courses, intimate retreats and bespoke 1:1 experiences.

Personally: She's a pussycat slash mermaid - when she’s not working you’ll find her splashing about in the sea, curled up in a sunny spot or off chasing a rainbow.